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[MrIncredible 1]

Hi

Ich hab vor ein paar Wochen einen Post gelesen. Ich meine er hieß "Why intelligent men fail with women", bin mir aber nicht sicher.

Ich hab ihn nur kurz überflogen, mich würde er aber jetzt doch nochmal intressieren.

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MI

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David DeAngelo Newsletter vom 14.05.2006

Why INTELLIGENT Men Fail With Women

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The Ten Reasons/Mistakes Why HIGHLY INTELLIGENT

Men FAIL With Women... AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT...

I've been teaching men how to become more

successful with women and dating for several years

now... and one "problem scenario" just keeps

coming up OVER AND OVER... and OVER and OVER and

OVER again...

...and it really amazes me.

I'm going to refer to it as "The Genius Failure

Paradox".

"The Genius Failure Paradox" is the tendency

for UNUSUALLY intelligent men to have very LOW

levels of success with women and dating.

After contemplating this particular paradox,

discussing it, and working on it for an awesome

amount of time, I'd like to share my thoughts

about it with you.

I assume that if you've read this far, then you

probably see yourself as smarter than the average

guy.

You know that you're a little different than

other guys.

You probably realized at a young age that you

saw things differently and thought differently

than others in school...

And you've probably realized that your smart

mind gives you an advantage over others in many

areas of life...

Your smart mind gives you a particular type of

advantage that can be very, very powerful in life:

YOU'RE USUALLY RIGHT.

Smart people get used to being "right" because

they usually ARE right.

And when you're RIGHT more often than others,

you can get ahead in many situations.

But unfortunately, this smart mind of yours can

actually be WORSE than USELESS when it comes to a

key area of life:

WOMEN AND DATING.

By the way, I did say WORSE than useless.

It can actually be like having a hammer when

you need to tighten a bolt. If you use the tool

you have for the job, you'll most likely make the

situation WORSE.

Of course, it's hard for a smart guy to even

IMAGINE a situation where his smart mind could

HURT his chances for success...

But trust me, this is one of those situations.

So relax, open your smart mind, and let me

share with you the ten reasons why smart guys fail

with women... and what to do about it.

REASON #1: THEY'RE WRONG, BUT THEY CAN'T OR WON'T

SEE IT OR ADMIT IT.

I mentioned that smart guys are used to being

RIGHT in most situations.

And what do most smart guys do when they come

across a situation where they're WRONG?

They find a new situation... one that fits

their strength. They know they'll be right next

time, so they just walk away... knowing that it

won't be long before they're right again.

(OR they let the "problem situation" destroy

them... more on that later.)

Well, the BITCH about being wrong when it comes

to women and dating is THERE'S NOWHERE TO RUN AND

HIDE.

There's no quick "I'm right" around the next

corner to make you feel better.

It only takes "failing" with a few women in a

row for a smart guy to see the pattern... and

realize that something isn't working.

Solution? Think harder.

A smart guy just assumes that his logic must be

good... so he just keeps thinking harder.

But when no success comes, it really starts to

become mentally difficult.

Accepting that you're wrong is a VERY hard

thing for a "smart guy" to do.

Accepting that you're not only wrong, but you

have NO CLUE WHERE TO EVEN START is even more

difficult.

Ultimately, many smart guys come up with the

following logical conclusion:

I AM A SMART GUY, THEREFORE IF I CAN'T FIGURE OUT

HOW TO BE SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN AND DATING, THEN

THE PROBLEM MUST NOT BE SOLVABLE OR WORTH SOLVING.

Try that on for a self-defeating idea.

REASON #2: THEY'RE BLIND AND ARROGANT.

In short, many smart guys refuse to accept that

a good, solid, workable answer could come from

someone "dumber" than them, so they discount any

idea that comes from an "obviously less

intelligent person" before trying it.

Let me ask you a question:

If you were going to be walking across Africa

on foot, would you rather have your guide be the

guy on this planet with the highest I.Q., or a

caveman who lived a million years ago that had an

I.Q. of about 50... but who grew up being chased

by lions and all kinds of animals that wanted to

eat him all his life?

It's an interesting question.

Now, hopefully you'd like to have the guide who

isn't the smartest guy around... but who has

escaped from many, many dangerous situations with

deadly animals...

But now let me ask you:

If you'd like to learn how to be more

successful with women and dating, would you take

advice from a guy who isn't very intelligent, but

who knows how to attract women?

There's something about being smart that makes

some guys unwilling to accept input, ideas, or

instruction from anyone who isn't either as smart

or smarter than them.

Well, any SMART GUY can see the folly in this

particular approach... once it's examined closely.

If you've been making this mistake, then you

need to STOP IT. Stop being an arrogant bastard,

and open your eyes.

Look around.

Learn from some "dumb" guys... and let them

teach you how to get what you REALLY want.

REASON #3: POOR SOCIAL SKILLS.

It BLOWS MY MIND how many smart guys I meet

that just don't GET IT when it comes to basic

social skills.

It's as if they have logically reasoned that

social skills are for lower beings who need to

play games... and not worth the time it would take

to learn them.

In fact, I believe that there are a lot of

smart guys running around this planet who don't

even have "social skills" and "be a cool guy that

people like" in their MENTAL MODEL of what it

could possibly take to be successful with women

and dating.

Social skills are just that... SKILLS.

They're not social INFORMATION.

They're not social THEORIES.

They're social SKILLS.

And you don't get them by THINKING about them.

You get them by GETTING them.

Excellent social skills are the foundation for

good communication with other humans... and if you

don't have good social skills, you dramatically

lower your chances for success with women.

REASON #4: THEY PSYCH THEMSELVES OUT.

Smart guys do something that fascinates the

hell out of me...

They come up with all the reasons why

everything WON'T WORK when it comes to women and

dating.

They actually figure out why what it is that

they would like to do will probably fail...

They use their amazing creative imaginations to

imagine all kinds of horrible pictures and

scenes... and then they use those imaginary

outcomes to create negative emotions... which

ultimately stop them from having success with

women and dating.

THEY DON'T EVEN TRY.

Now, if you've thought something through and

come up with a good reason why it would fail, it

makes sense to not do it, right?

I mean, why would you want to do things that

are going to fail?

It is sound logic, but HORRIBLE thinking when

it comes to the REAL WORLD... and success with

women.

Because smart guys don't UNDERSTAND women, and

they don't UNDERSTAND what it takes to be

successful with women, they are working with bad

figures. They're wrong before they even start

figuring!

Using your mind to come up with all the reasons

why things won't work in this area of your life

leads to ULTIMATE FAILURE.

You must learn to overcome this habit if you

have it.

REASON #5: THEY SEEK ONLY "INFORMATIONAL

SOLUTIONS"

What does a smart guy do when he runs into a

problem... or he needs to figure something out?

He looks for INFORMATION to help him solve the

problem.

MORE INFORMATION is always the answer.

Information is the friend of a smart guy.

Got a strange virus on your computer? Just hop

on the Internet and search for how to eliminate

it.

Don't know how to change the alternator on your

car? No prob. Just buy the manual and turn to page

147.

Don't know the definition of a word? Open up

your dictionary.

MORE INFORMATION solves the problem.

So what do smart guys do when it comes to

overcoming a problem with women?

They want MORE INFORMATION.

They think the answer lies in learning just ONE

MORE TECHNIQUE... or one more magic concept.

Well what if there were a situation in life

where the "get more information" strategy actually

made things WORSE?

How would you even know that it was making

things worse?

Now, I don't want to suggest that learning more

about how to be successful with women is a bad

thing. It's not.

But if you have a problem that is EMOTIONAL or

PHYSICAL in nature, then reading five million

theories on it probably isn't going to help you

very much.

You need to get out in the real world and try

some stuff!

You need to look at the REAL problem... the

ROOT of the problem.

When it comes to women and dating, there's a

very good chance that you have MORE than enough

"information".

Smart guys often use "more information" to

distract them from TAKING ACTION.

I've heard this referred to as "Creative

Avoidance".

Nod silently if you've ever figured out a

creative way to avoid facing something in your

life.

Good, thank you.

REASON #6: THEY FOCUS ON LOGIC INSTEAD OF EMOTION.

NEWS JUST IN: Women don't feel ATTRACTION for

men who make them THINK.

Women feel ATTRACTION for men who make them

FEEL.

So what do most smart guys do when they first

meet a woman?

EXACTLY!

They get into a LOGICAL CONVERSATION.

I'm shaking my head right now...

Smart men try to engage women in LOGICAL

conversations and interactions because that's

where THEY feel comfortable... not knowing that

they're SHOOTING THEMSELVES IN THE FOOT by doing

it!

Get this: A monkey sitting at a typewriter will

type the collected works of Shakespeare before you

will make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you by

engaging her in logical conversation.

When you start a logical conversation with a

woman you've just met, you are basically taking

out a NEON SIGN that says, "I don't get it when it

comes to women" and putting it on your head.

Typical "logical" conversations include talking

about work, family, school, and jobs... discussing

politics, religion, weather... and anything that

has to do with math, science, or INTELLIGENCE.

On the other hand, if you start talking to a

woman and you say, "OK, so tell me something...

Why is it that all women say that they want sweet,

nice guys... but they all date sexy, selfish, bad

boys?" (and then make fun of any answer she gives)

Now you're having an EMOTIONAL conversation.

If you don't know what I'm talking about, keep

reading. You need more help than I thought.

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REASON #7: THEY'RE NOT USED TO THE CHALLENGE OF

THE MOMENT

Smart people usually have time to THINK about

things.

If you're taking a test, you can sit there and

work out the answers.

If you have a math problem, you can work on it

until you've figured it out.

If you're trying to fix something, you can keep

working on it until it's fixed.

Smart guys are used to being able to take at

least a LITTLE bit of time to prepare and show off

their "good sides" in most situations.

Not so with women...

If you don't know what to do at every step

along the way, you'll be shut down very quickly.

Women have an AMAZING "He doesn't get it" radar

system.

Women have all kinds of subtle and ingenious

tests that they throw at men to separate the "get

its" from the "don't get its".

And if you don't get it, then you're going to

fail one of these tests VERY quickly.

But the worst part is that you won't ever KNOW

that you were being tested... OR that you failed.

Smart guys aren't used to dealing with complex

EMOTIONAL and COMMUNICATION challenges in the

moment... and especially the "women and dating"

kind.

One of they keys to becoming more successful

with women and dating is learning to handle all of

the tests that women throw at you effortlessly.

But before you can learn how to deal with the

tests, you must first learn how to communicate on

an emotional level, how to demonstrate that you

have fundamental social skills, and how to keep

your cool in the moment.

REASON #8: THEY THINK THAT DOING "NICE" THINGS IS

THE "SMART WAY"

OK, let me ask you a trick question:

If I told you that you were going to have a

date with the supermodel of your choice, which of

the following would you choose as a "smart" way of

preparing:

1) Find out what her favorite type of flowers are,

and show up with a dozen of them so she would be

"wowed".

2) Learn about her favorite travel destination so

you could discuss it with her.

3) Find out what her favorite type of food is so

you could take her to dinner... and she could see

that you cared enough to choose something that she

enjoyed.

OK, time's up. Which did you choose?

Now, I already mentioned that this was a TRICK

question.

The answer is NONE OF THE ABOVE.

But WHY?

These three options all seemed logical, right?

I mean, why WOULDN'T you want to show up with

her favorite flowers?

Why WOULDN'T you want to talk about to her

about her favorite places to travel?

Why WOULDN'T you want to take her to eat her

favorite foods so she enjoyed herself?

Go with me here...

Smart guys think that they're being CLEVER when

they do things like buying a woman her favorite

flowers... and bringing them to the FIRST DATE.

Right?

In their minds they're thinking, "I'm going to

be the guy who is thinking ahead... and I'm going

to show up with the flowers that I KNOW she

loves... and she's going to see them and like me

more because of it".

Makes sense... good math, right?

Well the one teensy-weensy mistake that these

"smart" guys make is not realizing that it doesn't

actually take a smart person to think like this!

In fact, ANY jackass can figure out how to kiss

a woman's ass.

And guess what?

WOMEN KNOW THIS!

And guess what else?

EVERY WUSSBAG DOES THIS STUFF.

An intelligent guy, in his proud arrogance,

will think he's being such the charmer by using

this "thoughtful" approach...

...and the woman he is chasing will interpret

it as just another Wussy who's trying to

MANIPULATE her.

Ouch. Another blow to intelligence.

MISTAKE #9: THEY ALWAYS NEED TO BE THE EXPERT

Have you ever met a smart guy who always needed

to be "right"?

Have you ever met someone who would actually

argue with you about something they knew nothing

about... and make a fool of themselves because

they just couldn't shut their "smart mouths"?

Over the last few years helping guys improve

their success with women, I see this one pattern

over and over again...

Smart guys don't like to be "beginners" at

ANYTHING.

They don't like the idea of screwing up...

especially if others are watching.

They want to maintain this "smart guy" image of

themselves... so they try to always be "The

Expert" at whatever they do.

Instead of saying, "Hey, you know what? I'm a

beginner at this... how do I do it? What should I

do first? What next?"... and instead of being

totally OK with screwing up, making mistakes, and

making a fool of themselves in front of others in

order to LEARN...

...they won't risk embarrassment, failure, or

others thinking that they're beginners... so they

wind up ultimately FAILING.

MORE NEWS JUST IN: It's OK to be a beginner.

MISTAKE #10: THEY CAN'T DEAL WITH FEAR AND OTHER

EMOTIONS

A smart guy's STRENGTH is his MIND.

His WEAKNESS is often his EMOTIONS.

Smart guys are often IMMOBILIZED by FEAR.

Totally stopped.

FROZEN.

And since many smart guys aren't comfortable

dealing with things they're not good at, they just

repress or RUN away from fear.

Many men would rather DIE in lonely isolation

than admit that they don't know how to deal with

their emotions... or, GOD FORBID, ask for help!

Hey, I went for YEARS like this.

I know what it's like.

But the reality is that any guy can learn to

handle and even MASTER his emotions (even fear)...

if he just takes the time and effort to learn HOW

to do it.

If this is you, then do yourself a big favor...

take the time. Take the effort.

Don't worry about what anyone else thinks of

you... it doesn't matter.

What matters is you doing the things that YOU

need to do FOR YOU.

...I think the reason why I'm so fascinated

with "The Genius Failure Paradox" is because I

have had to struggle with all of these issues for

a lot of years of my life.

Now, I'm not saying that I'm the smartest guy

on the planet...

But, I don't think mamma raised no fool.

And it always bothered the hell out of me that

even though I was so good at figuring things out,

I couldn't figure WOMEN out.

Something tells me that you know what I'm

talking about.

Well, after beating my head against the wall

for a few years... trying all kinds of crazy

"logical" stuff... I finally got the "bright" idea

to start studying guys who were "naturally" good

with women.

Of course, I found out that you could be both

NOT SMART and VERY SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN at the

same time.

I also learned that you can be SMART and VERY

SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN too.

By carefully studying what the "naturals" did

with women... and learning how they "thought"

about the topic, I began to realize that success

with women wasn't entirely LOGICAL.

Much of what I learned was very tough for me to

accept... because my logical brain just didn't

want to buy into it.

One thing I saw was guys pushing women away

from them... and having the women then chase them

in response.

Made no sense at all.

I saw guys tease beautiful women and make jokes

about them to their faces... and then watched

those women become "little girls" in response...

unable to maintain their composure and therefore

unable to maintain their manipulative power...

It took me quite a long time, but I continued

to learn, test, and refine what I was learning

until I personally figured out how to approach

women in any situation... get any woman's number I

wanted anytime I wanted... date any type of woman

I wanted...

...and most importantly, GET RID of that

"empty" feeling that I carried around my whole

life because I didn't know how to attract women.

And once I got this area of my own life

together, I decided to help other guys get this

area of THEIR lives together.

The first "major" result of all this time,

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As a matter of fact, the guest interviews alone

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If you're ready to finally get this area of

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I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

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[MrIncredible 1]

danke, genau das wars!

gruß,

MI

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