Zur Entspannung - 13 attr. of likable man und Haus am See Melde Dich an, um diesen Inhalt zu abonnieren 0

[Gast Caliban]

Liebe HH PUler,

zur Entspannung schaut und besonders hört euch mal dieses Ding an:

Peter Fox - "Haus am See", aus "Stadtaffe":

...dann lest weiter...

Sebastian Drake, der bekannt ist für sein "Social" Game und sein tiefes soziales Verständnis, hat den unten stehenden Text verfasst, den ich mal per Newsletter vor ca. 7 Monaten erhalten habe.

Lest euch seinen Text durch, den ich auch heute noch unterschreiben würde.

Dann lest noch mal eure Posts der letzen drei, vier Wochen durch. Sehen sie jetzt etwas irgendwie anders aus als vorher, fühlen sie sich irgendwie anders an, schmecken sie anders, sind sie noch so samtig?

Grüße - Euer Caliban

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Now, 13 characteristics of likable people. You don't need to do ALL

of these, just pick one or two and implement them and watch your

social life improve:

1. Smiling - People who are at ease, confident, and happy tend

to smile, and that smile puts people at ease. Smiling shows that

you're pleased to see someone which can be really flattering. If

you want to change one thing to come across more social, smile a

big smile. Sometimes you will not feel in the mood to smile -

however, if you choose to smile anyway you'll still get the great

results.

2. Eye contact - Maintaining eye contact when you talk to

someone draws them deep into conversation with you - the rest of

the world slows down, and you both become quite important to each

other. It shows a calm confidence in what they are saying and it

makes them even more engaging, almost hypnotic. A quick tip: Right

eye to right eye. Look from your right eye to the right eye of the

person you're talking to. This strikes a great balance between good

eye contact and not staring.

3. Touch - You'll consistently see magnetic people reach out and

touch others. Touching shows emotion and affection and brings you

closer to other people. Humans crave physical contact with others,

and more emotion and affection can be expressed through touch than

any number of words ever could. Next time someone does or says

something you really like, give them a high five, some "pound", a

playful punch on the arm or a big hug.

4. Not talking about yourself - Likable people typically are

more curious to get to know other people and don't talk about

themselves as much. Likable people are always looking to find out

more about the other person, what they are doing, and what

interests them the most. Most people don't feel heard - likable

people know this, and encourage others to talk about what they

really enjoy.

5. Not talking too much - Closely related to the above point.

Likable people and high status people do not talk too much. Instead

they encourage others to talk and to open up. People love to talk

about their experiences and cool things they've done - when you

become more curious and encourage them to speak more, they'll

actually like you more. If you catch yourself rambling for a while,

an easy way to adjust is to say, "But that's enough about me - what

about you?"

6. Empathy - Making people feel understood, and striving to

truly understand them is powerful. Everyone wants to be understood.

People want to know that they are not alone in the world. If you

can reach out to understand another person, you'll instantly form a

great connection with them. Next time someone tells you something

heavy that you could have a long discussion on, instead try saying

just "I understand." You'll be amazed at how uplifting it can make

other people feel.

7. Not trying to impress - Somewhat accomplished people want

everyone to know about the accomplishments they've made. Really

amazing people are much more humble and low key about what they've

done. The most impressive people never actively try to impress

people. The result is that a man trying to impress communicates

that he's not impressive.

8. Showing praise and appreciation - Whenever you see anything

you like in another person, let them know. If people aren't used to

you opening up, praising, and appreciating constantly, you might

get a funny reaction at first. Once you've established that you're

constantly on the lookout for great things in others, people get

used to feeling empowered around you. When you do mention something

you really like, keep it casual. No big deal, no long talk. Just,

"Hey, I really appreciate that you did that." "I thought that was

really cool how you did that."

9. Never criticizing, ever, for any reason - Likable people

never criticize others. People universally hate criticism, and hate

people that criticize them. Likable people always start off with

genuine praise and appreciation before trying to give constructive

feedback, and will only give this feedback rarely (because likable

people understand that praise is a much better way to help people

change than even constructive feedback, and criticizing is almost

always useless).

10. Not trying to fix other peoples' problems - When someone

tells you they have a problem, but doesn't explicitly ask for your

help, that means they do not want you to tell them how to solve it.

They want to feel understood, cared about, and empowered. Over 90%

of the time, people know the solutions to their own problems. If

someone brings a minor problem to you, try listening, nodding,

letting them know you understand, and you're with them. Tell them

you believe in them and you think they'll sort it out. If they ask

what you'd do, maybe make a quick suggestion but don't drive the

point really hard. As crazy as it sounds, most people do not tell

others about their problems in order to get solutions; they want

understanding, empathy, and reassurance. People are very strong and

quite good at solving their own problems when believed in.

11. Eliminate negativity - Never mentioning anything you don't

like. Especially never being down on culture-wide things outside of

your direct control: So, not complaining about the government, pop

culture, fashions you think are silly, activist groups you disagree

with, and so on. Being positive is really good. Not talking about

things you dislike is even more important.

12. Never complain - When people complain, others feel slightly

less inclined to be around them. It brings people down. If you

don't like something, you have two choices: Take action to fix it,

or accept that it's there. When you realize that, there's no reason

to complain.

13. Never impose weakness on others - Everyone feels down from

time to time. The most charismatic people never "impose" that down

feeling on others; instead, they're a fort of strength for people

around them. The more you stay composed, and refrain from showing

being phased or flustered, the more you gain control over your

life. People start to respect you more, and they feel they can rely

on you.

You probably already do a lot of those - for a bonus, pick a couple

more and start implementing. You'll see quick improvements right

away, and long term improvements down the line.

[theghost 1]

Danke.

Den Punkt über Kritik finde Ich sehr interessant.

Ghost

[Philipp K. Dick 0]

Super Beitrag, Danke!

[Yash 5]

Perfekt genau das sind die Punkte die ich in mein NLP Training einbringe das ist ja nahezu der Perfekte Satz für eine unbeschreibliche Aura.

danke für den Post!