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What prevents men from being successful with

women?

Well, the list goes on and on... but one of the

elements that TOPS the list is FEAR.

There are many different situations that make

men feel fear, but I'd like to talk about some of

the most common ones... and what to do about them.

First of all, I'd like you to be honest for a

moment about this topic.

Do you ever feel FEAR when it comes to women

and dating?

Have you ever seen a woman that you'd really

like to meet, but you started to feel fear and

didn't do anything about it?

Or maybe you were on a date and you wanted to

kiss a woman... but you felt too afraid because

you didn't want to make a mistake and screw up

your chances?

Or maybe you even got a woman's phone number,

but you were too afraid to call back because you

didn't know how to start off the conversation or

ask her out?

Cummon, seriously...

Have you ever been sitting there with the phone

in your hand, dialing a woman's number, but you

had to hang up because you were just too nervous

to even talk to her...?

Or out on a date with a woman, and you wanted

to kiss her, but you got so nervous at the thought

that you just decided it would be better to forget

the whole idea and hope for the best...?

Me too. Many times, in fact.

By the way, it's not exactly FUN to admit that

you're afraid of things.

I'm sure you know that most guys would rather

admit in public that they were unsure about their

sexual orientation than that they were afraid of

women.

Of course, this unwillingness to admit that you

have a problem IN THE FIRST PLACE only makes

matters worse...

If you don't admit that you have the problem,

then it's hard to get help and answers to it.

Well, the good news is that you're not alone.

Almost every guy I've known (including myself)

has dealt with this issue MANY TIMES with women.

So, STEP 1 is to GET OVER IT. Get over your need

to deny that you're afraid. Just admit that you're

afraid, and come to grips with the fact that

you're human...

STEP 2 is to admit that you'd like to get this

particular area of your life handled.

STEP 3 is to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

Once you realize that it's not that big of a

deal, then the improvement can start. On the other

hand, if you just stay in denial about it, you'll

probably just look for new tricks and techniques

to use on women... which, of course, won't lead to

any REAL improvement.

By the way, if you've got more than the

"average" amount of fear around meeting women, you

might want to take a minute and look at THIS... it

will help you:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/1.../DeepInnerGame/

I personally think that one of the biggest

causes of fear when it comes to situations with

women is:

PUTTING TOO MUCH IMPORTANCE ON WHAT THE WOMAN

THINKS OF YOU AND WHAT HAPPENS IN THAT PARTICULAR

SITUATION.

To put it in different words, most guys don't

take action because they're afraid that they'll

screw up, or that the woman or others around will

judge them.

The REAL problem though is that this whole

process has become AUTOMATIC, and it happens

INSTANTLY the moment most guys see a woman that

they'd like to meet. Before they even have a

chance to think about the situation rationally,

they've become nervous, insecure, and upset.

I'm sure you know EXACTLY what I'm talking

about.

As humans, we have these incredible minds and

bodies, but sometimes they get wired up in ways

that aren't exactly useful for the situations that

we find ourselves in. Worse, sometimes our

cultures, families, or peer groups teach us ways

of thinking that just aren't useful at all for

what we'd like to accomplish.

Here's something that I realized a few years

ago when I was learning for myself how to be

successful with women...

I thought about this idea that I was having

this instant, automatic fear in different

situations with women, and that what I was really

thinking was "I don't want to screw this up" and

"I don't want her to think that I'm a dork"...

And all of a sudden something dawned on me:

IT DOESN'T MATTER.

It doesn't matter what happens, and it doesn't

matter what she thinks of me.

I realized that the fears I was experiencing

were more from PROGRAMMING than from reality.

So, I started to remind myself as often as

possible that the fear wasn't happening because

there was any kind of danger... and that my

objective in a particular situation wasn't to have

it turn out perfect, IT WAS TO LEARN.

Think about the difference between doing

something because it's important vs. doing

something in order to LEARN.

So, for instance, if I saw a woman that I

wanted to meet... instead of thinking, "OK, I have

to say something charming and original so she'll

like me... and if I screw up I'm going to be

embarrassed" - I began to think things like, "I'm

going to learn how to get a woman's phone number

within a few minutes of meeting her... and part of

learning this is going to be trying a lot of

different things that probably aren't going to

work... but in the end, it's all going to even out

because I'm going to have the SKILL that I want."

See the difference?

Well, let me tell you, that change in attitude

made a HUGE impact on my success. I was willing to

do and try things that I never would have tried in

the past for fear of screwing up...

All because I had the attitude of "I'm going to

learn something from this and improve my skills...

and it doesn't matter what happens in THIS

PARTICULAR situation", I was able to improve very

rapidly.

And the more I began to apply this idea, the

more success I had in ALL areas with women... from

the first meeting, to getting them to go out with

me, to taking things to a physical level.

So do this:

Go out RIGHT NOW and start a conversation with

a woman.

I don't care if she's attractive or not.

But instead of having the objective of getting

a date, have the objective of LEARNING SOMETHING.

In fact, if you REALLY want to improve fast, go

spend a day starting conversations with women, but

make the commitment to NOT get any phone numbers

or dates all day.

In other words, no matter WHAT happens, you

can't date any of the women that you meet that

day.

See if you can just learn how to do a few

simple things like say, "Hi" to every woman that

walks by... how to maintain eye contact with women

until THEY look away... and how to end a

conversation "too soon" so she feels a natural

vacuum and tries to keep it going herself...

That's one good idea for dealing with your

fears.

If you'd like to read more of my personal

secrets for overcoming fear, including specific

mental exercises and physical drills, then I'd

recommend that you download a copy of my online

eBook "Double Your Dating". It's full of all my

very best thinking on this and many other subjects

about success with women.

Just go to:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/16966/eBook/

...and if you're ready to REALLY get your

"issues" handled with women, then I recommend that

you get your hands on a copy of my Advanced Dating

Techniques CD/DVD program.

You'll get to hear me and several of my

friends, who are AMAZING with women, talk about

how we learned to overcome our issues, deal with

our fears, and meet more women as a result.

There's nothing like hearing it live, and this

program will blow your mind. Go here for all the

details:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/1...AdvancedSeries/

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.