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[Impact333 1]

I've been going out 1-2 a week for awhile now, have known about game for years already, had my share of fun with a fair amount of lays, but never got good at it. I would describe my level as intermediate at best. I'm 29, live and work a full-time job in Berlin.

Inspired by many threads on this and other forums, I decided to take action and my goal is 1000 approaches by the end of the year. I will focus mainly on the process and taking action. I realised if I don't do this shit now, I'll probably never gonna do it, so it's now or never.

I've been skeptical about using routines, but have recently seen wings using them and getting amazing results, so I will gradually build my game on routines until there is no need to rely on them anymore.

EDIT: I realise I need a rule for approaches that count. I will only consider the ones where I'm in set for more than 2 minutes.

Juni 1, 2014 bearbeitet von Impact333

[smallPUA 945]

Ich kann zwar Englisch, aber Du darfst ruhig Deutsch mit uns sprechen.

[Impact333 1]

First report of yesterday's night. Met up with a wing from RSD thats visiting Berlin and went to Adagio. The guy takes a lot of action and that pumps my state a lot so I start approaching right and left to warm up. That's a lesson in and of itself: keep going out with new wings, some are better, some are just starting out, but everyone has their own style and you can always learn something from them. If not just knowing there's someone there on the field next to you gives you massive motivation.

There was a group of girls and guys dressed up in costumes so I approach a blonde, who was the Bday girl, but quickly some other guy from the group engages her and I move on. A few minutes later we're on the dance floor and my wing starts talking to a 2-set, I quickly engage the other one and soon we start dancing together. I try to feel her up but she blocks. Few failed attempts at convo and she's gone.

Up in the smokers area, my wing opens a 2set at the bar, hb7 and hb5, I engage the friend so he can do his thing. He escalates quickly and I see him holding her hand and then he asks me how do you say "you're a dirty whore" in German. Lol, I like his style. I think he tried to go for the close, but something didn't work out and the girls left "to the bathroom". Moving on.

Back on the dancefloor. I see a 2-set of HB8 and HB9 both looking either bored or pissed off, I open HB8 with "you guys look like you're having a lot of fun" I'm not even sure she understood what I said but she looked over to her friend HB9 for approval, who looked at me from head to toes and gave me the thumb-down verdict with her facial expression. I tried to talk to her but she leaned away. Shit test fail. I should have used a neg on her like "you obviously didn't have sex in a loooong time". I'll remember that next time when I feel like a defeated gladiator.

#1: A few half-ass approaches later I'm talking to a nice polish girl. I use a few new routines on her, like the famous best friends and "from you two, your friend is the chill good girl type and youre the more crazy type, right?" which work well. I'll definitely keep using these in the future, along with my favourite neutral opener from the earlier set. Then I go on rambling something like "Your eyes tell me that you want to dance, have fun, do some crazy stuff, but there's something holding you back" all the time while I keep pulling her to me. She kept smiling but her body language was pushing my hand away, she was leaning back, and my wing struggled keeping her UG friend engaged and she then dragged her away. I saw her again in the chill-out area at the end of the night, I talked to her for another 5 minutes, her friend wanted to leave and I just ignored her and kept talking but couldn't keep her engaged for long, tried to close unsuccessfully.

#2: Dancefloor again. 5-6 HB dancing in a circle. I say hi to one that was in front of me, she says she just wants to dance alone bla bla. I take the hand of the other next to her, spin her (great move), we start dancing, actually grinding in front of everybody else, she then says she wants to just dance with her friends, they havent seen each other for a long time and want to have fun. I tell her "right, you guys look like you're work colleagues that see each other every day". I compliment her on how well she can dance, saying that she probably practices her moves in her underwear every night before she goes to sleep (great routine for dance floor game). I then say let's dance one more song, she agrees and this time I start feeling her ass, turn her around, sniffing her neck from behind and complimenting her on how nice she smells. She then tells me she's engaged and that her wedding is next week. I congratulate her, and say "great, today is like your bachelorette party" then feel her up a bit more. She keeps saying that's enough, she wants to spend time with friends, etc and at some point I decide to stop pushing it and leave it at that.

[Fummelchamp 963]

@ TE

du kannst nicht davon ausgehen, dass jeder die englische Sprache beherrscht. Warum schreibst du nicht in Deutsch?

[Impact333 1]

Ich kann zwar Englisch, aber Du darfst ruhig Deutsch mit uns sprechen.

@ TE

du kannst nicht davon ausgehen, dass jeder die englische Sprache beherrscht. Warum schreibst du nicht in Deutsch?

Aus dem einfachen Grund, dass es mir auf Englisch VIEL einfacher ist. Ich kann zwar gut Deutsch (nicht meine Muttersprache), habe aber Schwierigkeiten mich richtig auszudrucken, wenn es sich um Details und Feinheiten des Reports handelt.

[Impact333 1]

Today I did 2 direct street approaches, both of which ended quickly:

#3: HBTimeWaster - a HB7 walking out of the train, turned around before me and went in the opposite direction. I risked looking like a maniac, turned around as well and followed her a bit, then opened directly telling her that I think she's cute, to which she agreed and I went full chump mode barely being able to say anything else and started stammering and got red. WTF is this?! Nature doesn't help with game at all, lol. I then asked her name and she said it doesn't matter, I shouldn't waste my time. I politely agreed and we parted ways. I obviously have a problem with giving too much of a fuck about people around me and what they might think.

#4: 10 min later a very slim HB8 in long black dress walking in front of me, I waited a bit until we both got out of the train station and then went in direct, she looked at me and freaked out, turned away and started racewalking.

I have done a lot of direct street approaches before this challenge, and already have a good feeling about what works, but continue doing most beginner mistakes. Oftentimes Im not in the mood, which was the case today, and the bad energy was reflected in the rejections. Anyways, a few important things to keep in mind for next direct street approaches:

- Speak loudly, even if there are people around me.

- Speak slowly

- Smile

A nice little quote for a bit of motivation:

A great deal of talent is lost to the world for want of a little courage. Every day sends to their graves obscure men whose timidity prevented them from making a first effort. ~Sydney Smith

Juni 3, 2014 bearbeitet von Impact333

[Nasi 37]

Ich finde es gut wie du deine Erfahrungen hier postest können sicherlich viele was bei lernen. Ob jetzt Deutsch oder Englisch ist total egal. Wenn jemand nicht so gut Englisch kann, kann er es ja durch lesen der Beiträge verbessern.

Also mir gefällt es und ich freue mich auf mehr

[Smarthoch2 118]

Hi TE,

this is a german-speaking forum. Therefore i would recommend that you write in german.

You can write in english if you want to, too. It might be a good practice for the readers.

From my side it's a little bit a question of respect, which language you're using.

Ok, here comes the reason why I'm writing you:

It seems to me that you're starting a yournal and that you're at the beginning of your development/journey.

Ok, now I see that your topic says the same.

Therefore I move your Thread to "Erste Schritte".

Kind regards,

Thomas

[smallPUA 945]

It might be a good practice for the readers.

How about it being good practice for the author to improve his German.

[Impact333 1]

I've been away for holidays, partly with family, so was slow in PU.

#5 At the hotel where I was staying in Greece, spotted a 3-set that was obviously alone - they were from Bulgaria and looked quite disappointed with the hotel they chose for their holidays because it was mostly for families and little fun. It turned out they were right. Approached with a directional opener, after a bit of fluff talk, I knew I liked the tall brunette. They were thinking of going to the (only) club nearby, but were not so sure. I said I'm going there anyway, so we can split the cab. Finally we decided to go and while we wait for the taxi, they get engaged by 2 guys that were working at the hotel as animators. It was obvious that my target liked one of the guys, she was asking a lot of questions, flirting, etc. I kept cool and let them do their dance. Later everybody go outside for a cigarette, she stays with me. I ask her if she doesn't smoke, she must have other addictions. She says some kind of sport. I say I have a feeling there's something else - sex? She looks at me but doesn't say anything. The stage is set I think to myself.

Finally the cab arrives and soon we're in the club. I keep running all routines that come to mind on her, a few stuck a few didn't and could see her buying temperature rising and instantly dropping. Things that worked:

- Among your friends, I bet you're the craziest one. What was the craziest thing you haven't done yet?

- What did you want to become when you were 7? But please don't say a princess!

- I told her there are 3 things that I like about girls: adventurous, feminine. She asked what the 3rd was. I say: you should figure out yourself. She said something like probably being a bit naughty, but without others noticing it, or something like that. She definitely nailed it.

At some point the convo fizzled out and I was getting tired, she went and danced with her friends, I just sat there watching but always telling myself to stick around, we're going back to the same hotel anyway, so I had to push through and not cave.

Back at the hotel, her friends went in, but I convinced to stay outside at the pool for 5 minutes. I sat her down and started massaging her legs, hugging, going for a kiss on the neck, block, hugging again, then going for the kiss again. At some point she just stood up and said she needs to go - so I walk her and she tells me she has somebody.

I see that I have a week frame, in the beginning I can get their interest, but then I find it hard to keep an interesting interaction going, especially with a 3-set.

#6 HBAliona - She's alone at the bar drinking a cocktail. I assume she's russian and open saying something in russian. I'm right and she opens. Mentions that her friend also met some guy yesterday that had the same name as me. A bit of fluff talk, convo fizzles out. I still need to warm up.

#7 HBSexyBlonde - Open with my usual opener, on my way to her she made eye contact and I already saw the rejection coming. She says she is having fun with a straight face, I ask her where she's from, but her facial expression shows no interest so I move on.

#8 HBSweety (FC) - Spot a 2 set, one of them on the way to the bathroom - perfect moment to approach. I tell her it looks like she's having a lot of fun, then take her hand and tell her to come dance with me. She hesitates a bit but I pull her and we start dancing. I'm taking it slowly, turning her around, etc. I compliment her on her moves, and run my usual dancing floor routine. She compliments back. What also works on the dance floor, if the girls is already dancing close to me, I put my both hands on her hips and turn her around with force than pull her to me and keep dancing - its super effective - gives her a taste of what you're like in the bedroom. Things start heating up with her, I decide to isolate and tell her to go outside for some fresh air. She informs her friend and we're outside. There's a strip club right next to the entrance, I ask her if she's ever had a guy strip for her, if she's ever been to a strip club, to which she says she's only been to a normal club once in her life. I like good girls :). While talking I constantly hug her, run my hands through her hair, and finally we kiss. At some point, I tell her that's enough, she's had enough already, she accuses me of kissing her. From there on it was smooth sailing, dancing, flirting, there was barely any resistance to kissing or grinding. Later on I invite her to my hotel, she says she cannot leave her friend there. I ask her where they are staying and she says a few minutes away, I suggest to walk her friend to the hotel, to which she agrees. Then we go to my hotel. I had a single room, and the reviews of the hotel on booking said they have a very strict policy on not letting strangers stay over, so I was a bit worried, but the lady at the reception was old and did not remember me, asked if we had a double room to which I said yes and before she could check we were already in the elevator. Here's a pic of her:

Summary:

Approaches: 8

NC: 1

KC: 1

FC: 1

Juni 25, 2014 bearbeitet von Impact333

[AG-Spear 0]

Hi,

those are really good field reports... they are very detailed and reveal the uncensored truth. Therefore people can learn from your success and from the mistakes, too.

So this is a great and valuable thread- no matter if it's written in german or english.

Congratulation on the FC. You did a great job and seemed to enjoy the whole interaction with her. From what I can she looks VERY CUTE !

[Impact333 1]

Alright, here I am back again. A few interesting things happened since my last post.

#9 HBTighty (FC#2) Approach a girl that got off from the bus in front of me, I was feeling great on that day so great energy around me - go in direct - tell her that I think she's cute, contrary to my expectation she had a great reaction and was very open, did some fluff talk about my holiday, and offered to meet her for a drink sometime later that week. A few days later I texted her, she was obviously into it and said she would love to meet up so I set the date close to a bar I like. At the bar we talked about usual life-related stuff, and at some point the convo fizzles out. I'm looking at her - she's either not into me or she's a bit reserved. I remembered her message when agreeing to the date, how it showed interest, then decided to escalate. We were sitting on a corner sofa each on the side, so I lay back and tell her to come over closer to me, which she does. Compliancy test passed. I don't waste time and start KINO - rubbing her back, shoulders as I talk to her about something else. Then I pull her closer to me for a hug, taking it slowly, always testing if she's compliant by sniffing her neck, stroking her hair. She's following my lead but she's still not comfortable, so we talk again a bit as I keep caressing her back and slowly going for the neck, then back again and so on until she's ready for the make-out. She asks me if I'm always this fast - to which of course I say not always ;). At some point I decide its time for venue change and I suggest we go for a walk close to the Spree. On the street I stop her, hug her and make out again, then tell her "Hey, we're in public, control yourself" - good one, always gets a laugh and sets the frame of her chasing me. After some more make-out and teasing, she told me she's tired and wants to fall asleep. I tell her we should go to my place, then - very important - kept talking. Told her how I'll make nice bacon sandwiches in the morning, etc. At some point she said it is probably a bad idea, to which I said sex is not necessary, just spend some time together. Again, I just kept talking on and on, did not wait for a reply. I suggest we walk some more and lead her to the street, where I keep looking out for cabs as we walk. As I raise my hand to stop a cab, she asks me what am I doing, to which I say I'll get us a cab. At this point she had to go out of her way to resist, so just let it be and got in with me. A few lessons from this report:

Lesson: make sure I get enough sleep and exercise every day - the better you feel during the day, the better the results are

Lesson: always a good thing to go for the cheek kiss after meeting the girl, shows that you're physical

Lesson: when going for the FC, do not ask if she wants to come over, just tell her, then KEEP talking, do not pause for reaction or reply

App: 9

NC: 2

KC: 2

FC: 2

Juli 15, 2014 bearbeitet von Impact333