Beliebtheit / Charisma Melde Dich an, um diesen Inhalt zu abonnieren 1 1

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Hallo,

kennt jemand von Euch ein paar gute Texte / Inspiration zu den oben genannten beiden Themen?

ich will dort ein wenig an mir arbeiten. "Beliebheit" klingt vielleicht etwas groß aufgetragen, ich möchte im Umgang mit Menschen einfach besser und mal eingeladen werden

Bin umgezogen.

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Kauf dir das Buch "Das Power Prinzip, von Anthony Robbins", ist gut fürs Innergame.

Vielleicht hilft dir das, ein lockerer Mensch zu werden. Mit viel Ausstrahlung natürlich ;)

[spu86 1]

Was habt ihr so Erfahrungen damit gemacht?

[Flatulenzius 98]

Bücher haben die Angewohnheit viel zu viel Text zu haben.

Such dir lieber kurze Videos, die das Ganze zusammenfassen

[Kolibri-Maki 509]

Charisma ist wirklich schwer zu erlernen. Erlerntes Charisma wirkt so künstlich und erzwungen. Freu dich, wenn du kein Charisma hast, oft ist das mit gesundheitlichen Problemen verbunden, komischerweise.

[tonystark 2393]

Ich denke eher, dass "Charisma" etwas dick aufgetragen klingt, denn das ist meines Erachtens noch viel mehr als Beliebtheit und vermutlich nichts, was man durch das Lesen von Büchern oder das Besuchen von Seminaren erlernen könnte (jedenfalls keine Bücher/Seminare zum Theme "wie werde ich charismatisch").

Sicher, du kannst den ein oder anderen Tip beherzigen, der dich womöglich selbstbewusster/sympathischer erscheinen lässt: Offene, aufrechte Körperhaltung, Blickkontakt halten, Leute öfter mal mit dem Vornamen ansprechen, etc.

Aber wenn ich deine wenigen Zeilen richtig deute, geht das am Kern deines "Problems" vorbei: Du bist allein in einer neuen Stadt und hättest gern ein paar Leute, mit denen du etwas unternehmen kannst. Anstatt Dich auf den Gedanken zu versteifen "ich will charismatisch werden, dann laden die anderen mich schon ein", würde ich eher fragen "wie kann ich den ersten Schritt machen".

Viele Infos dazu findest du unter www.succeedsocially.com (die Texte dieser Website gibts übrigens bei Amazon fast für lau als Ebook zusammengefasst).

Sollte es Dir tatsächlich um das Thema Charisma gehen - damit hat sich z. B. Dr. Tony Allessandra beschäftigt (gibt auch ein Buch dazu). Das ist bisher das einzig als seriös zu bezeichnende Buch was ich über Charisma finden konnte, allerdings auch wenig praxisnah. Ansonsten gibts dazu natürlich auch viel mehr oder minder fundierten Self-Help-Müll. Anstatt damit Deine Zeit zu verschwenden, würde ich aber lieber eine Biographie einer wirklich charismatischen Persönlichkeit lesen. Charisma entfaltet sich -wenn- von innen heraus. Geh deinen Träumen nach, sprich darüber, finde etwas, was Dich fesselt und lerne die Begeisterung nach außen zu tragen.

Oktober 27, 2013 bearbeitet von tonystark

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Charisma ist wirklich schwer zu erlernen. Erlerntes Charisma wirkt so künstlich und erzwungen. Freu dich, wenn du kein Charisma hast, oft ist das mit gesundheitlichen Problemen verbunden, komischerweise.

Ich kotz gleich.

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Charisma: What Is It? Do You Have It?

Although people may not agree on a definition of charisma, they can generally agree on who has it and who doesn't. When I ask people to list charismatic public figures, John F. Kennedy, Martin Luther King, Jr., FDR, Gandhi, Ronald Reagan, Bill Clinton, and Barack Obama are commonly and frequently mentioned. Ask about charismatic people from the world of entertainment and Oprah Winfrey tops the list, and Clark Gable, Humphrey Bogart and Marilyn Monroe, are charismatic stars from the past.

On the surface, charismatic individuals, such as Bill Clinton, Mohandas Gandhi, and Oprah Winfrey seem to have little in common (besides being in positions of influence and leadership). But they all are recognized as having that "something special" that is charisma.

What is charisma? I've been studying that question for more than 30 years and we believe we have a good understanding of the personal qualities that can make any individual "charismatic." This "personal charisma" is not the same as charismatic leadership, but charismatic leaders possess most, if not all, of the basic building blocks of personal charisma.


Personal charisma is a constellation of complex and sophisticated social and emotional skills. They allow charismatic individuals to affect and influence others at a deep emotional level, to communicate effectively with them, and to make strong interpersonal connections.

Here are the elements of personal charisma:

Emotional expressiveness. Charismatic individuals express their feelings spontaneously and genuinely. This allows them to affect the moods and emotions of others. We all know charismatic people who seem to "light up the room" when they enter. They typically express positive affect, but they can also stir us up when they are angry or irritated.

Emotional sensitivity. (Empathy) This is the ability to read others' emotions, and allows the charismatic person to make an emotional connection by responding to their feelings. Just yesterday someone commented (for about the hundredth time) that Bill Clinton has a special ability to emotionally connect with people - to "make the person feel like he or she is the only person in the room."

Emotional control. Truly charismatic individuals have the ability to control and regulate their emotional displays. They don't "fly off the handle" (unless they purposely want to in order to make a point). They are good emotional actors, who can turn on the charm when they need to.

Social expressiveness. This is verbal communication skill and the ability to engage others in social interaction. Charismatic people are skilled and entertaining conversationalists. They certainly affect us with their emotional expressiveness, but there is also power in their words. Nearly all charismatic leaders are effective public speakers.

Social sensitivity. This is skill in reading and interpreting social situations, being able to listen to others, and be "in tune" with them. It helps charismatic persons to be tactful and sensitive to their surroundings.

Social control. Is a sophisticated social role-playing skill that is particularly important for charismatic leaders. It can be seen in the way that charismatic leaders (or everyday "charismatics") carry themselves with poise and grace. It allows them to fit in with all sorts of people and make those emotional and social connections that distinguish charismatic individuals from those of us who possess less personal charisma.

While these are the 6 "building blocks" of personal charisma, and possessing more of each is generally better, it is also critical that people have balance among the various skills. For example, too much emotional expressiveness, without the ability to control and "turn it off," can detract from personal charisma (think of a Robin Williams or Jim Carrey type).
Years ago, we developed a self-report measure of these basic social skills that together compose personal charisma. It helps provide a starting point for understanding one's own personal emotional and social skills (similar to the popular notions of emotional intelligence and social intelligence). We have also determined that people can indeed develop and hone their basic social skills, and, in fact, increase their personal charisma. More on developing charisma potential in a future post.
Want to learn more about charisma, here is an article, and if you can find my book, The Charisma Quotient, the early research is included.

Six Quick Tips to Build Charisma by Karla Brandau, CSP

"Charisma is the intangible that makes people want to follow you, to be around you, to be influenced by you." -- Roger Dawson

Each person is born ethnocentric, or believing that other people and events revolve around them which is generally true for the first few years of a child's life. The focus of activity for a growing child is inward. Some people carry this inward, self-focus into adulthood. These people, so overly concerned with their own well being in a self-centered way, never learn the secrets of influence. Successful people, who want to have the power of persuasion, turn their circle of activity and interest outward. They expand their centers to be as conscious of the world around them as they are of themselves. They develop what we call, charisma.
Charisma means you have learned to:
1. Act with credibility. Those who are inconsistent in their behavior repel people while those who are consistent in their behavior draw people to them. To be influential, have integrity. Speak up for what you believe, then act accordingly.
Gerry Spence, one of America's greatest trial lawyers, said, "One can stand as the greatest orator the world has known, possess the quickest mind, employ the cleverest psychology, and have mastered all the technical devices of argument, but if one is not credible one might just as well preach to the pelicans."
2. Be interested. Be truly interested in the other person. Treat him or her as the most important person you'll interact with that day - a VIP, Very Important Person. Smile at them, not just for a brief, dutiful second, but for a magical two or three seconds.
When you smile, lean toward the person a little, and think in your mind, "I like you. You are a great individual. I want to get to know you better." You'll be amazed at the connection and trust that will occur.
3. Extend respect. A few interaction skills that make a big difference to a respectful atmosphere in your organization include not interrupting conversations, asking if the person has time to talk, and listening to ideas.
Remember not to be in such a know-it-all position or in such a hurry that you finish other people's sentences. Be sure to comment on their ideas to let them know you have really been listening, not just waiting for them to take a breath so you can jump in with your agenda.

4. Deliver sincere compliments. People you work with do care what you think about them. They appreciate your mentioning their good work. When you do recognize them, be specific in your compliments.
Refrain from saying in an off-handed manner, "Oh, great work, Donna." Make it more personal: "Donna, that is the best research that has come across my desk in the last six months. Excellent work."
5. Accept sincere compliments. If a colleague comments, "Good presentation." Refrain from saying, "Oh, it was nothing." If a friend says, "Nice suit," don't reply, "This old thing? I've had it for years."
Deflecting a compliment often draws unwanted attention and belittles both you and the person offering the compliment. Just say,"Thank you." You'll be pleased with how gracious you become.
6. State what you are FOR, not AGAINST. People don't like nor do they cooperate with people who they think are against them. When you are against something, the person thinks you are against them personally. Once you voice your opposition to another person's idea, you become part of the problem. It's as if a war has started with each of you fighting to be right.
When you are for something, you begin focusing on the potential for positive change. You start the process of collaboration. You become a powerful person.
Try it. Next time a colleague brings you an idea for improving the department, find something about the idea you can be for. You may find that you never have to state what you were against in her ideas because the synergy and creativity has taken a positive turn to solving the problem.
RESOURCE:
Karla Brandau, CSP is a speaker, trainer & successful entrepreneur. She is "A wealth of empowerment information" who provides "real help, not theory" to improve, enhance & energize your leadership skills.
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nikki owen's charisma elements

Nikki Owen defines charisma by way of five significant personal attributes, summarised briefly here. Her development model is able to measure and develop each of these elements. As such she seems to have devised a logical, predictable and reliable way to understand, measure and develop personal charisma.


1. High Self-Esteem - in other words self-confidence, inner-calm, self-reliance, independence. Charismatic people have high self-esteem - which can be particular to an environment. This conveys confidence and authenticity. When you have high self-esteem you are relaxed about exposing your true self. Levels of self-esteem can vary with situation, so this element is one of several which is contextual. Self-esteem, and thereby charisma, can vary according to situation.
2. A Driving Force - in other words purpose, personal values, principles. Charismatic people have an underlying sense of purpose, a set of values - principles important to them - which drive their decisions and actions. Values and purpose help drive and motivate behaviour consistently and strongly, which others see to be dynamic and enthusiastic. A strong driving force can also be contextual. Many people are strongly driven and charismatic in a certain direction or field, but not in others.
3. Sensory Awareness - in other words empathy,emotional intelligence (EQ) Charismatic people are aware of their own feelings and the feelings and moods of others. They are in touch with their emotions and are uninhibited about showing them. This makes them expressive and compelling in the way they communicate and engage with others.
4. A Vision - in other words visualization, belief, mental picture, positive attitude towards aim. Charismatic people have a strong vision of what they want. This is different to driving force or purpose. The point here is the mental vision of the purpose. To imagine and believe the aim - to see it happening in your mind. This creates a strong energy of intent that others can feel, and often see and hear too. Positive attitudes help produce results. Having a strong mental picture of your aims tends to reinforce your own actions and the responses and actions of others in the direction of the vision.
5. High Energy - in other words passion, enthusiasm, commitment, determination. Exhibiting high personal positive energy builds and maintains a positive energetic response in others. Positive energy makes others feel good. They become energised, feel valued and productive, and so respond even more strongly to the source - the charismatic person.

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