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Hi!!

Es gibt Leute, die Schwierigkeiten haben Shit Tests mit verbalen IODs (Indicators of Desinterest) zu unterscheiden.

Ich möchte hier gern meinen Beitrag über das Thema, den ich in einem anderen Forum gepostet habe (auf Englisch), hier wiederposten, im Falle es jemandem weiterhilft:

Ok, I hope this helps you:

Shit tests:

Every time you interact with someone you are projecting an identity and defining your value relative to the value of that person and to that of others

When interacting with a girl she wants to know if you really are what you are projecting to be. And if you really are that high value guy she also (usually) wants to know if prince charming will stick around after banging her.

Thus, shit tests are frame wars where she is testing how strong your frame is to test you for:

-congruence

-genuineness

Some examples from out of my head:

-"Do you have a girlfriend?"

-"I don't like your hair cut"

-"Was that a pickup line?"

-"Are you one of those weird guys from the VH1 show?"

-Making demands like "Take off your hat"," Stand up", "Wait here" to see how you react to them

-Making fun or talking bad about your friends

-Trying to make yourself qualify to her by asking you things like "Do you go to the gym?", "What car do you drive?" or "I hate liars.Do you lie?"

-"You have got something on your back"

-"Is that parfume?"

-"Did you shower today?"

-"Did you just fart?"

-"Do you want a smint...you need it."

-Any kind of verbal harsh IOD when calibrated nonverbally to make it friendlier/more positive (for example with a smile or kino or voice tone that sound joking)

-Basically when she tries to tool you

-Everytime she gives IOIs that don't seem genuine like

"You are hot", "I like you", "I want to kiss you"

"Do you want to make out with my friend?, she is hot."

"Perhaps you get lucky tonight."

"How many girlfriends have you had?"

"Are you virgin?"

"Are you seeing someone?"

"Are you a player?"

-Telling you a joke that isn't funny to see haow much you laugh

-Purposely saying "I can't hear you" to make you lean in

-Asking "What?" all the time to see if you will repeat everything to her

Verbal IODs, on the contrary, happen either because of

-Anti-Slut Defense (you escalating too fast or not smooth enough to be ready)

-Because she isn't attracted to you (BT&A not high enough) to comply to your direction/compliance request

Examples:

-Everytime a girl tells you she wants to end the interaction in a genuine way like

"I really reallly have to go back to my friends now"

"I really don't want to talk to a guy right now."

"I think your friends are missing you. You should go back to them."

-When she replies with short sentences to try to end the conversation

-Any shit test from above when accompained with other obvious nonverball IODs

-Any kind of insult that isn't calibrated nonverbally to be either a joke or a shit test.

~ares~

[Depp_vom_Dienst 0]

Also: IODs sind entweder genuines Desinteresse oder ein Shit-Test.

Da du das nicht unterscheiden kannst, sieh ein verbales (!) IOD als Shit-Test.

Beispiel: "Ich gehe gleich zu meinen Freundinnen zurück"

I. Bleibt sie stehen ist es ein false IOD = Shit-Test.

>> Ignorieren/Reframen oder hart am Wind segeln: "Geh doch" + evtl. KC

II: Geht sie, dann war es ein genuine IOD

>> Überprüfen: Attraction?