Miller

Wer will sich schon früher treffen? Vielleicht 20:00 Uhr am Fischbrunnen/Marienplatz?

Yeaaaah, MunichLair ROCKS! Danke an spook für diesen FR und die gute Organisation!

LOL, das ist eine affengeile Idee!!!!!!! Wunderhübsch!!!! Ich hab leider ne längere Anreise und immer wieder was zu tun. Aber wenn ein Datum passt, werd ich alles dransetzen, dabei zu sein. Für wann planst Du wieder was? Ich würd's auch zu zweit machen, wenn andere Langeweiler sich zu schade dafür sind!

Hi, bin ebenfalls dabei! Beste Grüße, Miller

Bin dabei!

Simpel gesagt: Haste Recht!

Wie Sie es schaffen, Zuhörer in Ihren Bann ziehen Im Winter, wenn die Tage kurz und die Nächte lang sind, beginnt wieder die Zeit des Märchenerzählens. Aber auch unterm Weihnachtsbaum, Silvesterpartys oder an langen Winterabenden ist gefragt, wer durch aufregende Geschichten für Unterhaltung sorgt. Wie es geht, verrät EGONet. Können Sie so spannend erzählen, daß die Leute an Ihren Lippen hängen und alle anderen Gespräche um Sie verstummen? Menschen mit Charisma beherrschen diese Kunst. Es liegt keineswegs daran, daß sie mehr und Außergewöhnlicheres erlebt haben als Otto Normalbürger. Sie haben lediglich die Fähigkeit, Alltägliches so darzustellen, daß es die Aufmerksamkeit fesselt. Die Erzählung, die die Zuhörer in ihren Bann zieht, muß die Neugier wecken und im Banalen das Besondere entdecken. Wie so häufig in der Kommunikation kommt es mehr auf das Wie an als auf das Was. Wie präsentieren Sie ein Alltagserlebnis, damit die Umstehenden sich Ihnen zuwenden und niemand Sie zu unterbrechen wagt? Überprüfen Sie zunächst, ob Ihr Erlebnis zu Ihrer Zielgruppe paßt. Ein Bericht über einen außergewöhnlichen Riesenbarsch, den Sie letzten Sonntag fingen, wird bei Nichtanglern kaum die Beachtung finden, die er verdient, während die Erzählung von der Einschulung Ihrer Tochter vielleicht auf neugierige Ohren stößt, obwohl sie sich nicht von tausend anderen Einschulungen unterschied. Wenn Sie sich für eine passende Geschichte entschieden haben: Überlegen Sie sich, bevor Sie anfangen, zuerst das Ende der Geschichte. Wie endet sie und welche Erkenntnis, welches Fazit wollen Sie mit ihr übermitteln? Sie alle kennen den peinlichen Moment, wenn jemand einen Witz erzählt und mittendrin merkt, daß er sich an die Pointe nicht mehr erinnern kann. Das ist aber nicht der einzige Grund, warum das Ende für Sie als Erzähler der Anfang ist. Wenn Sie die Zuhörer bei der Stange halten wollen, müssen Sie Spannung aufbauen. Zu diesem Zweck werden Sie am Anfang ein Geheimnis, ein Rätsel oder eine andere Überraschung ankündigen, die sich am Schluß Ihrer Geschichte erfüllt. Das können Sie nur, wenn Sie von vornherein wissen, wie die Auflösung lautet. Auch die meisten Roman- und Drehbuchautoren fangen erst an zu schreiben, wenn sie sich im klaren sind, wie ihr Werk enden soll. In Ihrem ersten Satz wecken Sie die Neugier. Die einfachste Variante zeigt das folgende Beispiel: Sie haben gerade sich gerade auf einer Party in einer Gruppe angeregt über irgendein Thema unterhalten, sagen wir über Klassentreffen. Nur Sie können gar nichts beisteuern, weil Ihre frühere Schulklasse offenbar die einzige ist, die sich in alle Winde zerstreut hat. Da sagen Sie: "Apropos Klassentreffen. Mir ist da neulich etwas ganz Unglaubliches passiert. Ihr könnt euch vielleicht vorstellen, daß jemand nach Jahren bei einem zufälligen Wiedersehen eine Klassenkameradin nicht wiedererkennt. Aber würdet ihr auch den genau gegenteiligen Fall für möglich halten? Genau das ist mir vorige Wochen passiert." Nun? Neugierig geworden? Die Motivierung der Zuhörer schließt drei Schritte ein: 1. Überleiten vom Gesprächsthema zu Ihrer Geschichte. In unserem Beispiel sagte der Erzähler nur "Apropos Klassentreffen" – die sparsamste Variante. Er hätte auch sagen können: "Ihr habt es gut! Könnt ihr euch vorstellen, was für komische Verwechslungen möglich sind, wenn man seine Klassenkameraden zwanzig Jahre lang nicht gesehen hat?" 1. Etwas Außergewöhnliches versprechen. Alles, was aus dem Rahmen des Normalen fällt, was bizarr, über- oder unterdurchschnittlich, seltsam oder rätselhaft ist, motiviert zum Zuhören. In unserem Beispiel lautete das Versprechen: "Mir ist da neulich etwas ganz Unglaubliches passiert." Natürlich müssen Sie Ihr Versprechen am Ende auch halten, sonst sind Ihre Zuhörer enttäuscht, nicht nur von Ihrer Erzählung, sondern von Ihrer Person. Wenn Sie in der Tat ein tolles Erlebnis anzubieten haben, werden Sie die Erwartungen ohne Probleme erfüllen. Wenn nicht, müssen Sie Ihr Erlebnis in außergewöhnlicher Weise erzählen, also alle folgenden Tipps genau befolgen und gut umsetzen. 1. Eine Spannungsfrage stellen. Sie nennt ein Rätsel, das im Verlauf der Erzählung gelöst werden soll. In unserem Beispiel besteht sie aus zwei Teilen. Im ersten Satz ("Ihr könnt euch vielleicht vorstellen, daß jemand nach Jahren bei einem zufälligen Wiedersehen eine Klassenkameradin nicht wiedererkennt.") knüpft der Erzähler an eine plausible Alltagserfahrung an. Im zweiten Teil ("Aber würdet ihr auch den genau gegenteiligen Fall für möglich halten?") kündigt er eine Widerlegung dieser Alltagserwartung an. Jeder fragt sich unwillkürlich: Wie kann das sein? Um das zu erfahren, muß er das Ende der Geschichte abwarten. Der Erzähler kann die Spannungsfrage natürlich nur stellen, weil er das Ende, die Lösung schon kennt. Aber statt sie sofort zu beantworten, zögert er die Enthüllung hinaus und erzählt statt dessen ein Geschichte, die das Geheimnis nur Schritt für Schritt Preis gibt. Stellen Sie eine Person mit einer charakteristischen Eigenschaft in den Mittelpunkt Ihrer Erzählung. In unserem Fall ist es der Erzähler selbst. Seine Eigenschaft (siehe weiter unten): Ängstlichkeit, deswegen Wunsch nach Ablenkung. Der Erzähler könnte aber genauso gut über seinen besten Freund oder einen Prominenten berichten. Wichtig ist, daß die Person Individualität besitzt. Für eine kurze, anekdotenhafte Geschichte im Rahmen einer abendlichen Unterhaltung genügt meist eine typische Charaktereigenschaft wie Naivität, Entschlossenheit, Unsicherheit, Sparsamkeit, Verschwendungssucht oder ähnliches. Dadurch kann sich der Zuhörer mit dem Helden Ihrer Erzählung identifizieren. Er kann vergleichen und sich fragen: Würde ich an seiner Stelle genauso reagieren? In einem literarischen Werk würde der Autor den Charakter komplizierter gestalten, mit inneren Widersprüchen behaftet. Führen Sie Hindernisse, Komplikationen oder Konflikte in Ihre Geschichte ein. "Romeo und Julia" wäre langweilig, wenn die beiden sich nur verlieben und dann kriegen würden. Die Spannung entsteht dadurch, daß beide verfeindeten Familien angehören. Bis zum Schluß fiebert der Zuschauer mit: Was ist stärker – die Liebe oder die Feindschaft der Montagues und Capulets? Nur eine Geschichte, wo es anders kommt, als die Hauptperson anfangs dachte, ist erzählenswert. Nur wenn der Held überrascht wird, überraschen Sie auch Ihre Zuhörer. Erzählen Sie nur, was für das Ende Ihrer Geschichte wirklich notwendig ist. Abschweifungen sind Gift für die Aufmerksamkeit. So interessant es sein mag, daß Ihr Onkel zum Thema Ihrer Geschichte mal etwas Tolles gesagt hat – wenn es den Erzählfluß aufhält, lassen Sie es weg. Sie können darüber ja hinterher eine zweite Geschichte erzählen. Füllen Sie den Erzählstrang mit Details. Das weckt die Vorstellungskraft der Zuhörer und läßt sie innerlich mitbeben. Details sind die Würze, die aus banalen Erlebnissen eine hörenswerte Geschichte machen. Unser Erzähler würde viel verschenken, wenn er unmittelbar nach seiner Spannungsfrage sofort sagen würde: "Gestern betrat ich die neue Buchhandlung am Markt und sah eine Verkäuferin, in der ich trotz der inzwischen vergangenen Jahre nach kurzem Nachdenken meine frühere Klassenkameradin Renate zu erkennen glaubte." Statt dessen sollte er so erzählen, wie er die Begegnung selbst erlebte: "Gestern früh war ich auf dem Weg zum Zahnarzt, und hatte noch fünf Minuten Zeit. Ich sollte eine Stunde in seinen Stuhl, er wollte mir den Eckzahn für eine Krone abschleifen. Wie Sie sich denken können, war mit jede Gelegenheit recht, den Moment noch etwas hinauszuzögern. Da fiel mein Blick in das Schaufenster unserer neuen Buchhandlung am Markt. Ich suchte nichts Bestimmtes, meine Regale sind sowieso schon übervoll und so kam es, wie es kommen mußte. Ich trat durch die Tür, die Glocke schlug an und eine Verkäuferin in meinem Alter trat auf mich zu und fragte den üblichen, lästigen Satz: ,Kann ich Ihnen helfen?’ Ich schüttelte den Kopf und schaute ihr erst dann ins Gesicht. Moment, dachte ich, diese Augen und der schräge Haaransatz, die kleine, etwas zur Seite gekrümmte Nase, das leicht vorstehende Kinn und der Mund mit den schmalen Lippen – es waren zwanzig Jahre vergangen, aber ich erkannte meine frühere Klassenkameradin Renate sofort. Sie hatte sich für dasselbe Studienfach entschieden wie ich, nur an einer anderen Universität . Wir hatten uns vorgenommen, in Verbindung zu bleiben, unsere Erfahrungen auszutauschen, aber wie das Leben so spielt, nach zwei oder drei Briefen schlief der Kontakt ein und wir hörten nie wieder etwas voneinander. ,Renate!’ rief ich. ,Ich bin es, Michael. Nach so vielen Jahren ... Aber wieso arbeitest du in dieser Buchhandlung? Was ist aus deinem Lehramtstudium geworden? Du wolltest doch Biologie und Erdkunde unterrichten, wie ich!" Setzen Sie vor das Ende eine unerwartete Wendung. Erzählen Sie so, daß die Hörer nicht das Ende erwarten, das Sie vorbereitet haben, sondern sein Gegenteil. In unserem Beispiel rechnet der Hörer damit, daß Sie nach zwanzig Jahren eine Klassenkameradin an einem unerwarteten Ort wiederfanden. Wie erstaunt wird er sein zu hören, daß – wie in der Spannungsfrage angedeutet – genau diese Erwartung nicht eintraf: "Die Frau vor mir starrte mich zwei Sekunden ungläubig an, dann brach sie in Lachen aus. ,Wissen Sie, das ist mir schon lange nicht mehr passiert, daß man mich mit ihr verwechselt. Renate ist meine Cousine. Sie arbeitet als Lehrerin, da haben Sie ganz recht. Schon als Kinder hat man uns nur schwer auseinanderhalten können. Wir ähneln beide mehr unseren Vätern als unseren Müttern. Und die waren Zwillingsbrüder.’" Wenn Sie auf Nummer sicher gehen wollen: Bereiten Sie einige spannende Anekdoten zu Hause vor, und erzählen Sie sie bei Bedarf. Aus dem Stegreif erfinden Sie Geschichten erst dann, wenn Sie schon einige Male Gelegenheit hatten, die Reaktion der Zuhörer auf Ihre vorbereiteten Anekdoten zu testen, und aus Erfahrung wissen, was die Neugier reizt und was nicht. Quelle: http://egonet.de/egonet.php

Hier eine explizite Ausführung dessen, was im ES-Workshop schon angeschnitten wurde: Ein bisschen Dirty Talk und Aggressivität können helfen. (Das hat natürlich nichts damit zu tun, dass man ihr keinen Respekt zollt oder sie unglücklich hinterlässt.) ------------------------------------------------------- David Shade's Free MASTERFUL LOVER Newsletter www.Masterful-Lover.com ------------------------------------------------------- Badboy vs Nice Guy When to be "aggressive" and when to be "polite".... ***EMAIL from Jenny: Hi David, I don't mind aggression when making love. Sometimes it really turns me on. My man is an amazing lover. It's in the way he takes control of my body. He pulls and moves my body aggressively in different positions. It shows that he wants to give me sex that I enjoy. He would massage my vagina with his fingers very intensely. Its wonderful, even better than when he uses his penis. I love it. At the moment I can't seem to get enough. I just seem to want to do it all the time. I don't want to stop wanting it either. >>>MY COMMENTS: Jenny, may your email serve as an example to men that women are highly sexual creatures. And when it's really good, women can't get enough of it. ***EMAIL from John: Is there lots of women that don't like the aggressive badboy attitude at all? I mean, what about the important aspect of "politeness and manners"? John >>>MY COMMENTS: A lot of women are turned off by the aggressive attitude of badboys, if by "aggressive" you mean rude and pushy, and if the context is outside the bedroom in social situations. Outside of the bedroom, and in social interactions, most women prefer "politeness and manners." It's just human nature. But as you look around, you find that badboys tend to get the girls, while nice guys don't. Women are often seen crying on the shoulder of a nice guy "friend" as she suffers through the extreme emotional highs and lows of a relationship with a badboy "lover." Badboys are aggressive. Nice guys are polite. And thus, a lot of "reforming nice guys" who want to be "exciting badboys" will try to act aggressive. But they just end up being rude wimps. But a lot of it has to do with context. As I have discussed at length before, women want to be treated like a lady in the living room and ravaged like the slvt that she loves to be in the bedroom. And women know that badboys can ravage them. And I'm talking about the dangerous to know, impossible to tame, badboy. (And I'm talking about MOST women, at least once in their lives.) Badboys are exciting. For a woman, the sex is awesome with a badboy. He is dominant, he talks dirty to her, he makes her do things she is too inhibited to do, and she loves it. It makes her feel sexual. It is extremely exciting for a woman to experience these intense sexual feelings. Badboys are masculine. The feminine in a woman is attracted to the masculine in a man. And with a badboy, it is extreme. It is this contrast that is so alluring to a woman. It makes her feel sexy and feminine. Badboys lead an exciting life. They are daring and live on the edge. Women want to be part of it to make their own life more exciting. Badboys are mysterious. They have a dark side that women are endlessly curious to know. She never really feels she knows him. Badboys cannot be tamed. Women are nurturing creatures, and are thus compelled to save him. She is determined to rescue him by teaching him how to love. Badboys are fearless with women. He will woo her by being sweet and gentlemanly, while she is drawn to his masculine confidence. Badboys are addictive. She becomes so wrapped up in her experience that she realizes she needs it. And the badboy knows it. Once she becomes addicted, the bad side of the badboy comes out. Badboys are selfish. He inconsiderately takes and takes, and she gladly gives and gives even more in order to keep him because she is addicted to the exciting sex. Badboys are secretive. She begins to notice things he is keeping from her. Things about his dark side that would be self incriminating. Badboys make promises of fidelity and then deny their indiscretions. When she learns he has cheated, she is hurt, but she needs it, so she works even harder to save him. Badboys are paranoid. He knows that other men do exactly the same thing. Thus, he becomes very jealous and possessive of his women. He becomes controlling in order to keep her to himself. It is incongruent. The internal incongruency is another form of weakness. Most every highly sexual woman has at least once in her life been with a badboy. This is true for both high self esteem and low self esteem women. For the high self esteem woman, she eventually can't take the drama any more, and she leaves him. It is probably the most emotionally traumatic thing she will ever do. It is heart wrenching for her because she has become so addicted to the awesome.sex. After a woman has been through the roller coaster ride with a badboy, she will forever avoid inconsiderate jerks. But she will always crave those intense sexual feelings. Let me repeat: She will ALWAYS crave those intense sexual feelings And it is because she craves those intense sexual feelings that there is a tremendous opportunity for you. So you can thank the badboys for doing some of the preparation work for you. I have studied the badboys for many years, because I wanted to have the same kind of powerful sexual affect on women. But I was determined to go beyond even that. I was going to figure out everything it takes to have that powerful affect on a woman and still have all the other things that a woman must have, because when all those other things are true... It makes the sex even more awesome. So when you step into a woman's life, she sees that she could have all the things she has always wanted, and she begins to become excited about the possibilities. You are masculine without being macho. You are dominant without being domineering. You are exciting without being reckless. You are mysterious without being deceiving. You are considerate without being placating. You are strong yet gentle. You are forthright and trustworthy. You are sexually exciting in the bedroom and a gentleman in the living room. You are a man in every respect. You are a Masterful Lover. I have gathered all my research and knowledge into my "David Shade's Masterful Lover Manual" where I discuss at length what it means to be the kind of man that has a powerful sexual affect over women. And I discuss all those things that you must make true for her in order to drive her crazy and bring out that ruthlessly expressive slvt in her. http://www.masterful-lover.com/manual.html You can learn from the badboys just how very powerful it is to talk dirty to a woman in bed. For most women, it is extremely exciting. But many men have reservations about doing that, or don't really know what is appropriate to say or not appropriate to say. There are certain things that powerfully turn on a woman, and there are other things that absolutely must be avoided. And this is especially true for high quality women. I discuss all these things, with specific examples of what to say, on my audio CD called "The Art Of Sexy Dirty Talk." My girlfriend also speaks and gives a woman's perspective on the subject. She will tell you just how important it is, and tell you some of the rules. You can also learn from the badboys about what they do to get a new sexual relationship off to an exciting start. And you can avoid their mistakes. I discuss this on my hour long audio CD called "How To Set The Foundation For A Wild Se xual Relationship." http://www.masterful-lover.com/products.html I have many more sexual techniques in my "Foundations" program, complete with detailed illustrated diagrams explaining exactly how to do the techniques, and fully explaining female anatomy. I also discuss the correct knowledge and beliefs to being a Masterful Lover. http://www.masterful-lover.com/foundations.html Give women incredible pleasure, David Shade ------------------------------------------------------- Copyright 2005, David Shade Corporation. All rights reserved. David Shade and Masterful Lover are trademarks of David Shade Corporation. You understand and agree that David Shade Corporation writings and recordings are strictly to be used for personal entertainment purposes only. All content, products, and services are NOT to be considered as legal advice, medical advice, or professional advice. You are solely responsible for your use of the ideas, concepts, and content herein, and hold David Shade Corporation harmless in any event or claim. -------------------------------------------------------- David Shade's Free MASTERFUL LOVER Newsletter David Shade http://www.Masterful-Lover.com -------------------------------------------------------- Die Wiedergabe dieses Inhalts wurde freundlicherweise genehmigt durch die David Shade Corporation. / Credits to David Shade Corporation for the permission of pasting this content.

Gern, kann aber immer nur wochenends; komme aus Ingolstadt. Samstag ginge erst recht spät, so ab 20:00 Uhr. Nach Augsburg oder München zu kommen ist okay.

Hey, super, danke schon mal für diese kurze Einschätzung!

Liebe Leute, hat jemand Erfahrung mit professionellen Beratern für individuelle Imagefestlegung? Hintergrund: Ich schreibe mir selbst einen relativ guten Modegeschmack zu. Gerade im beruflichen Umfeld habe ich häufiger Feedback eingeholt, von dem ich ausgehen kann, dass es ehrlich ist. Ich habe ein durchschnittliches, gepflegtes Aussehen, sicher nicht schlecht. Ich mag mich. Fraglich ist, ob ich das Maximale aus meinem Gesicht rausgeholt habe. In Hochschule und Job trage ich häufig eine Brille, wobei demnächst leider stärkere Gläser auf dem Plan stehen. Außerdem ist mein Haarwuchs seitlich recht eigenwillig, ohne Styling-Produkte geht nichts. Möglicherweise könnte eine andere Frisur helfen. Gerne würde ich dazu einen echten Berater hinzuziehen. Ich weiß, dass es davon viele gibt, über http://www.aici-germany.de findet man einen ganzen Branchenverband. Meine Frage: Hat jemand schon praktische Erfahrungen mit einer professionellen, individuellen Beratung gesammelt? (Anmerkung: Schreibt mir bitte nicht, "Variiere einfach, nimm was dir gefällt", "Schönheit kommt von innen" oder "nimm 'ne Frau mit zum Shoppen". Alles schon beherzigt, aber ich will mal 'ne echt professionelle Meinung) Besten Dank!

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www.tanzschul-tv.com - Scheint zwar kommerziell zu sein, bietet aber einige gute Videos.

The Ten Reasons/Mistakes Why HIGHLY INTELLIGENT Men FAIL With Women... AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT... I've been teaching men how to become more successful with women and dating for several years now... and one "problem scenario" just keeps coming up OVER AND OVER... and OVER and OVER and OVER again... ...and it really amazes me. I'm going to refer to it as "The Genius Failure Paradox". "The Genius Failure Paradox" is the tendency for UNUSUALLY intelligent men to have very LOW levels of success with women and dating. After contemplating this particular paradox, discussing it, and working on it for an awesome amount of time, I'd like to share my thoughts about it with you. I assume that if you've read this far, then you probably see yourself as smarter than the average guy. You know that you're a little different than other guys. You probably realized at a young age that you saw things differently and thought differently than others in school... And you've probably realized that your smart mind gives you an advantage over others in many areas of life... Your smart mind gives you a particular type of advantage that can be very, very powerful in life: YOU'RE USUALLY RIGHT. Smart people get used to being "right" because they usually ARE right. And when you're RIGHT more often than others, you can get ahead in many situations. But unfortunately, this smart mind of yours can actually be WORSE than USELESS when it comes to a key area of life: WOMEN AND DATING. By the way, I did say WORSE than useless. It can actually be like having a hammer when you need to tighten a bolt. If you use the tool you have for the job, you'll most likely make the situation WORSE. Of course, it's hard for a smart guy to even IMAGINE a situation where his smart mind could HURT his chances for success... But trust me, this is one of those situations. So relax, open your smart mind, and let me share with you the ten reasons why smart guys fail with women... and what to do about it. REASON #1: THEY'RE WRONG, BUT THEY CAN'T OR WON'T SEE IT OR ADMIT IT. I mentioned that smart guys are used to being RIGHT in most situations. And what do most smart guys do when they come across a situation where they're WRONG? They find a new situation... one that fits their strength. They know they'll be right next time, so they just walk away... knowing that it won't be long before they're right again. (OR they let the "problem situation" destroy them... more on that later.) Well, the BITCH about being wrong when it comes to women and dating is THERE'S NOWHERE TO RUN AND HIDE. There's no quick "I'm right" around the next corner to make you feel better. It only takes "failing" with a few women in a row for a smart guy to see the pattern... and realize that something isn't working. Solution? Think harder. A smart guy just assumes that his logic must be good... so he just keeps thinking harder. But when no success comes, it really starts to become mentally difficult. Accepting that you're wrong is a VERY hard thing for a "smart guy" to do. Accepting that you're not only wrong, but you have NO CLUE WHERE TO EVEN START is even more difficult. Ultimately, many smart guys come up with the following logical conclusion: I AM A SMART GUY, THEREFORE IF I CAN'T FIGURE OUT HOW TO BE SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN AND DATING, THEN THE PROBLEM MUST NOT BE SOLVABLE OR WORTH SOLVING. Try that on for a self-defeating idea. REASON #2: THEY'RE BLIND AND ARROGANT. In short, many smart guys refuse to accept that a good, solid, workable answer could come from someone "dumber" than them, so they discount any idea that comes from an "obviously less intelligent person" before trying it. Let me ask you a question: If you were going to be walking across Africa on foot, would you rather have your guide be the guy on this planet with the highest I.Q., or a caveman who lived a million years ago that had an I.Q. of about 50... but who grew up being chased by lions and all kinds of animals that wanted to eat him all his life? It's an interesting question. Now, hopefully you'd like to have the guide who isn't the smartest guy around... but who has escaped from many, many dangerous situations with deadly animals... But now let me ask you: If you'd like to learn how to be more successful with women and dating, would you take advice from a guy who isn't very intelligent, but who knows how to attract women? There's something about being smart that makes some guys unwilling to accept input, ideas, or instruction from anyone who isn't either as smart or smarter than them. Well, any SMART GUY can see the folly in this particular approach... once it's examined closely. If you've been making this mistake, then you need to STOP IT. Stop being an arrogant bastard, and open your eyes. Look around. Learn from some "dumb" guys... and let them teach you how to get what you REALLY want. REASON #3: POOR SOCIAL SKILLS. It BLOWS MY MIND how many smart guys I meet that just don't GET IT when it comes to basic social skills. It's as if they have logically reasoned that social skills are for lower beings who need to play games... and not worth the time it would take to learn them. In fact, I believe that there are a lot of smart guys running around this planet who don't even have "social skills" and "be a cool guy that people like" in their MENTAL MODEL of what it could possibly take to be successful with women and dating. Social skills are just that... SKILLS. They're not social INFORMATION. They're not social THEORIES. They're social SKILLS. And you don't get them by THINKING about them. You get them by GETTING them. Excellent social skills are the foundation for good communication with other humans... and if you don't have good social skills, you dramatically lower your chances for success with women. REASON #4: THEY PSYCH THEMSELVES OUT. Smart guys do something that fascinates the hell out of me... They come up with all the reasons why everything WON'T WORK when it comes to women and dating. They actually figure out why what it is that they would like to do will probably fail... They use their amazing creative imaginations to imagine all kinds of horrible pictures and scenes... and then they use those imaginary outcomes to create negative emotions... which ultimately stop them from having success with women and dating. THEY DON'T EVEN TRY. Now, if you've thought something through and come up with a good reason why it would fail, it makes sense to not do it, right? I mean, why would you want to do things that are going to fail? It is sound logic, but HORRIBLE thinking when it comes to the REAL WORLD... and success with women. Because smart guys don't UNDERSTAND women, and they don't UNDERSTAND what it takes to be successful with women, they are working with bad figures. They're wrong before they even start figuring! Using your mind to come up with all the reasons why things won't work in this area of your life leads to ULTIMATE FAILURE. You must learn to overcome this habit if you have it. REASON #5: THEY SEEK ONLY "INFORMATIONAL SOLUTIONS" What does a smart guy do when he runs into a problem... or he needs to figure something out? He looks for INFORMATION to help him solve the problem. MORE INFORMATION is always the answer. Information is the friend of a smart guy. Got a strange virus on your computer? Just hop on the Internet and search for how to eliminate it. Don't know how to change the alternator on your car? No prob. Just buy the manual and turn to page 147. Don't know the definition of a word? Open up your dictionary. MORE INFORMATION solves the problem. So what do smart guys do when it comes to overcoming a problem with women? They want MORE INFORMATION. They think the answer lies in learning just ONE MORE TECHNIQUE... or one more magic concept. Well what if there were a situation in life where the "get more information" strategy actually made things WORSE? How would you even know that it was making things worse? Now, I don't want to suggest that learning more about how to be successful with women is a bad thing. It's not. But if you have a problem that is EMOTIONAL or PHYSICAL in nature, then reading five million theories on it probably isn't going to help you very much. You need to get out in the real world and try some stuff! You need to look at the REAL problem... the ROOT of the problem. When it comes to women and dating, there's a very good chance that you have MORE than enough "information". Smart guys often use "more information" to distract them from TAKING ACTION. I've heard this referred to as "Creative Avoidance". Nod silently if you've ever figured out a creative way to avoid facing something in your life. Good, thank you. REASON #6: THEY FOCUS ON LOGIC INSTEAD OF EMOTION. NEWS JUST IN: Women don't feel ATTRACTION for men who make them THINK. Women feel ATTRACTION for men who make them FEEL. So what do most smart guys do when they first meet a woman? EXACTLY! They get into a LOGICAL CONVERSATION. I'm shaking my head right now... Smart men try to engage women in LOGICAL conversations and interactions because that's where THEY feel comfortable... not knowing that they're SHOOTING THEMSELVES IN THE FOOT by doing it! Get this: A monkey sitting at a typewriter will type the collected works of Shakespeare before you will make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you by engaging her in logical conversation. When you start a logical conversation with a woman you've just met, you are basically taking out a NEON SIGN that says, "I don't get it when it comes to women" and putting it on your head. Typical "logical" conversations include talking about work, family, school, and jobs... discussing politics, religion, weather... and anything that has to do with math, science, or INTELLIGENCE. On the other hand, if you start talking to a woman and you say, "OK, so tell me something... Why is it that all women say that they want sweet, nice guys... but they all date sexy, selfish, bad boys?" (and then make fun of any answer she gives) Now you're having an EMOTIONAL conversation. If you don't know what I'm talking about, keep reading. You need more help than I thought. IMPORTANT NOTE: If you just read this section, and you can identify with what I'm talking about, then I highly recommend that you go to this page: http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/1...cation/c-mid513 REASON #7: THEY'RE NOT USED TO THE CHALLENGE OF THE MOMENT Smart people usually have time to THINK about things. If you're taking a test, you can sit there and work out the answers. If you have a math problem, you can work on it until you've figured it out. If you're trying to fix something, you can keep working on it until it's fixed. Smart guys are used to being able to take at least a LITTLE bit of time to prepare and show off their "good sides" in most situations. Not so with women... If you don't know what to do at every step along the way, you'll be shut down very quickly. Women have an AMAZING "He doesn't get it" radar system. Women have all kinds of subtle and ingenious tests that they throw at men to separate the "get its" from the "don't get its". And if you don't get it, then you're going to fail one of these tests VERY quickly. But the worst part is that you won't ever KNOW that you were being tested... OR that you failed. Smart guys aren't used to dealing with complex EMOTIONAL and COMMUNICATION challenges in the moment... and especially the "women and dating" kind. One of they keys to becoming more successful with women and dating is learning to handle all of the tests that women throw at you effortlessly. But before you can learn how to deal with the tests, you must first learn how to communicate on an emotional level, how to demonstrate that you have fundamental social skills, and how to keep your cool in the moment. REASON #8: THEY THINK THAT DOING "NICE" THINGS IS THE "SMART WAY" OK, let me ask you a trick question: If I told you that you were going to have a date with the supermodel of your choice, which of the following would you choose as a "smart" way of preparing: 1) Find out what her favorite type of flowers are, and show up with a dozen of them so she would be "wowed". 2) Learn about her favorite travel destination so you could discuss it with her. 3) Find out what her favorite type of food is so you could take her to dinner... and she could see that you cared enough to choose something that she enjoyed. OK, time's up. Which did you choose? Now, I already mentioned that this was a TRICK question. The answer is NONE OF THE ABOVE. But WHY? These three options all seemed logical, right? I mean, why WOULDN'T you want to show up with her favorite flowers? Why WOULDN'T you want to talk about to her about her favorite places to travel? Why WOULDN'T you want to take her to eat her favorite foods so she enjoyed herself? Go with me here... Smart guys think that they're being CLEVER when they do things like buying a woman her favorite flowers... and bringing them to the FIRST DATE. Right? In their minds they're thinking, "I'm going to be the guy who is thinking ahead... and I'm going to show up with the flowers that I KNOW she loves... and she's going to see them and like me more because of it". Makes sense... good math, right? Well the one teensy-weensy mistake that these "smart" guys make is not realizing that it doesn't actually take a smart person to think like this! In fact, ANY jackass can figure out how to kiss a woman's ass. And guess what? WOMEN KNOW THIS! And guess what else? EVERY WUSSBAG DOES THIS STUFF. An intelligent guy, in his proud arrogance, will think he's being such the charmer by using this "thoughtful" approach... ...and the woman he is chasing will interpret it as just another Wussy who's trying to MANIPULATE her. Ouch. Another blow to intelligence. MISTAKE #9: THEY ALWAYS NEED TO BE THE EXPERT Have you ever met a smart guy who always needed to be "right"? Have you ever met someone who would actually argue with you about something they knew nothing about... and make a fool of themselves because they just couldn't shut their "smart mouths"? Over the last few years helping guys improve their success with women, I see this one pattern over and over again... Smart guys don't like to be "beginners" at ANYTHING. They don't like the idea of screwing up... especially if others are watching. They want to maintain this "smart guy" image of themselves... so they try to always be "The Expert" at whatever they do. Instead of saying, "Hey, you know what? I'm a beginner at this... how do I do it? What should I do first? What next?"... and instead of being totally OK with screwing up, making mistakes, and making a fool of themselves in front of others in order to LEARN... ...they won't risk embarrassment, failure, or others thinking that they're beginners... so they wind up ultimately FAILING. MORE NEWS JUST IN: It's OK to be a beginner. MISTAKE #10: THEY CAN'T DEAL WITH FEAR AND OTHER EMOTIONS A smart guy's STRENGTH is his MIND. His WEAKNESS is often his EMOTIONS. Smart guys are often IMMOBILIZED by FEAR. Totally stopped. FROZEN. And since many smart guys aren't comfortable dealing with things they're not good at, they just repress or RUN away from fear. Many men would rather DIE in lonely isolation than admit that they don't know how to deal with their emotions... or, GOD FORBID, ask for help! Hey, I went for YEARS like this. I know what it's like. But the reality is that any guy can learn to handle and even MASTER his emotions (even fear)... if he just takes the time and effort to learn HOW to do it. If this is you, then do yourself a big favor... take the time. Take the effort. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks of you... it doesn't matter. What matters is you doing the things that YOU need to do FOR YOU. ...I think the reason why I'm so fascinated with "The Genius Failure Paradox" is because I have had to struggle with all of these issues for a lot of years of my life. Now, I'm not saying that I'm the smartest guy on the planet... But, I don't think mamma raised no fool. And it always bothered the hell out of me that even though I was so good at figuring things out, I couldn't figure WOMEN out. Something tells me that you know what I'm talking about. Well, after beating my head against the wall for a few years... trying all kinds of crazy "logical" stuff... I finally got the "bright" idea to start studying guys who were "naturally" good with women. Of course, I found out that you could be both NOT SMART and VERY SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN at the same time. I also learned that you can be SMART and VERY SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN too. By carefully studying what the "naturals" did with women... and learning how they "thought" about the topic, I began to realize that success with women wasn't entirely LOGICAL. Much of what I learned was very tough for me to accept... because my logical brain just didn't want to buy into it. One thing I saw was guys pushing women away from them... and having the women then chase them in response. Made no sense at all. I saw guys tease beautiful women and make jokes about them to their faces... and then watched those women become "little girls" in response... unable to maintain their composure and therefore unable to maintain their manipulative power... It took me quite a long time, but I continued to learn, test, and refine what I was learning until I personally figured out how to approach women in any situation... get any woman's number I wanted anytime I wanted... date any type of woman I wanted... ...and most importantly, GET RID of that "empty" feeling that I carried around my whole life because I didn't know how to attract women. And once I got this area of my own life together, I decided to help other guys get this area of THEIR lives together. The first "major" result of all this time, effort, and energy is my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD Program. It's over 12 full hours of me personally teaching all of my very best concepts, secrets, and step-by-step techniques... recorded at a special 3-day live program I did just for this purpose. You not only get to learn directly from me, but you also get to see and/or hear from many of the guys that I learned from... because they're guests on the program. As a matter of fact, the guest interviews alone are priceless. If you're ready to finally get this area of your life "figured out", then you need to get yourself a copy of this program. All the details, plus some great audio and video sample clips are here: http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/1...Series/c-ase513 And if you haven't downloaded my online eBook "Double Your Dating", then you need to go and do that now. You can download it and be reading it within a few minutes from right now. You can download it here: http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/1.../eBook/c-ebe513 I'll talk to you again soon. Your Friend, David D.